PRIVATE · OFF THE RECORD · 8–30 GUESTS

Silicon Valley CEO dinners

Published 15 Jan 2026 · Updated 17 May 2026 · By Murray Newlands

Small rooms
doing the real work

Silicon Valley CEO dinners are private off-the-record dinners for chief executives in San Francisco and Palo Alto. 8 to 30 guests per dinner. No agenda printed on a card. No presentations. Conversation moves around the table.

The reason they exist is functional. The most useful conversations for chief executives in the AI era are about decisions that have not been announced yet: AI org restructures, contested board calls, model evaluations, regulator conversations. None of that gets said in a public room.

The format has become more common in the past three years. Some dinners are run by venture firms (often poorly, with too much pitching). Some are run by professional event organisations (often well-attended but light on candor). The best are run by individual conveners who select for seniority, generosity and the willingness to keep what is said in the room.

Open Future Forum's
private dinner series

Forum Select is the private invitation-only tier of Open Future Forum. It is the Silicon Valley CEO dinner series convened by Murray Newlands, Partner at IASV Seed Ventures.

The format:

  • Size: 8 to 30 guests per dinner
  • Cadence: Quarterly, with themed dinners (CFO, CISO, public board member) held more frequently
  • Location: San Francisco and Palo Alto, at distinctive private venues
  • Norm: Strict off the record. Not Chatham House. Nothing repeated outside the room.
  • Cost: No fee for members
  • Access: By invitation from Murray Newlands or by referral from an existing member

The selection criterion is generosity. The unspoken rule is that everyone at the table is expected to give first: share what they know, make the introductions that matter, leave the room better than they found it.

More about Forum Select

The room
tends to be

AI Founders

Founders and CEOs of AI companies

Mostly post-Series B with significant scale. The conversations are technical and strategic in equal measure.

Enterprise C-suite

C-suite leading AI inside large enterprises

CEOs, CFOs, CTOs, CISOs and Chief AI Officers at $100M+ companies working through what AI means for their organisations.

Board Directors

Public-company board members

Independent directors and committee chairs with AI governance responsibility. Often the most senior voices in the room.

Senior Investors

VC partners, PE principals, family office principals

Senior capital allocators with AI exposure. The dinners are not pitch venues. Investors who attend are expected to give before they take, same as everyone else in the room.

Against other
CEO dinner formats

Most Silicon Valley CEO dinners fall into one of four categories:

  • Venture-firm dinners. Hosted by VC firms, often with a portfolio CEO speaking. Useful for the firm. Variable usefulness for guests, depending on how much pitching is allowed.
  • Conference satellite dinners. Hosted by event organisations or sponsors during major conferences. Larger, less private, more transactional.
  • Peer-organisation dinners. Forum dinners hosted by YPO, EO, Vistage and similar groups. Structured. Off the record. Strong for general peer learning, but not AI-specific.
  • Convener-led dinners. Hosted by an individual who has spent years building trust with senior leaders. The format Forum Select uses.

For a full breakdown of the AI CEO dinner format including Forum Select, YPO Forums, Vistage groups, Hampton retreats and CEO coalition dinners, see the comparison guide to AI CEO dinner groups.

Three paths
into the room

Forum Select dinners are invitation-only. Three ways to receive an invitation:

  1. Attend a Forum Event. Forum Events are open and public. Murray attends most of them. The best guests receive a quiet personal invitation to something more private.
  2. Get a member referral. A referral from someone already in the room is the highest-signal path in.
  3. Apply directly. Murray reviews every inquiry personally. Selection is based on seniority, generosity and how the candidate would contribute to the room.

There is no fee at any stage.

Apply for Forum Select

Things people
typically ask

What is the best Silicon Valley CEO dinner series?+

It depends on what you want. For AI-specific conversations with chief executives and board directors in a private off-the-record setting, Forum Select is the most relevant. For general peer learning across industries, YPO Forums are the largest and most established. For accountability-focused peer boards, Vistage runs the most structured format. For a full comparison, see the guide to the best AI executive communities.

How much does a Silicon Valley CEO dinner cost to attend?+

It depends on the format. Forum Select dinners are free for members. Peer-organisation dinners (YPO, Vistage, etc.) require annual membership dues in the thousands. Venture-firm and conference satellite dinners are usually free for invited guests.

Where are these dinners held?+

San Francisco and Palo Alto. Forum Select dinners are held at distinctive private venues. Specific venue details are shared with invited guests.

Can I host a CEO dinner with Open Future Forum?+

Some Forum Select dinners are co-hosted with sponsors whose product or service is genuinely relevant to senior AI leaders. Reach out via the apply page to discuss.

The Next Step

Find your seat
at the table

Forum Select is by invitation only, but the path in is open. Attend a Forum Event, get a referral, or apply directly.

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