Philosophy

The Give and Take
philosophy

Why the most generous leaders in Silicon Valley consistently outperform everyone else, and why Open Future Forum was built to find them.

Adam Grant's insight.
Murray's proof of concept.

In 2013, organisational psychologist Adam Grant published Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success. The central finding: in every profession, givers, those who contribute to others without immediate reciprocal benefit, consistently produce the highest long-term outcomes. They also, initially, sometimes fall behind. The difference between the most successful givers and the least successful ones is simple: the successful givers learn to operate in networks where giving is the norm, not the exception.

Murray Newlands had been living proof of this thesis before it was written. He built a career in Silicon Valley through two decades of introductions made without asking for anything, content published for the benefit of others, platforms shared freely, and time given to founders who had nothing to offer in return. He became one of the most connected people in the Bay Area not by networking strategically, but by being genuinely generous.

"The most powerful network is the most generous one, not because generosity is a strategy, but because it builds trust that no strategy can manufacture."
— Murray Newlands

Givers, Takers,
and Matchers

Adam Grant identifies three types of professional behaviour:

  • 01Givers, contribute more than they receive, share knowledge freely, make introductions without expectation, help others succeed as an end in itself.
  • 02Takers, extract more than they contribute, treat relationships transactionally, see generosity as naivety, optimise for short-term gain.
  • 03Matchers, balance giving and receiving, operate on reciprocity, help when it seems likely to be returned, the most common style.

Grant's research shows that at the top of every field, the most successful leaders are givers. They build reputation, trust, and compounding networks that no transactional approach can replicate.

The AI era rewards
generous leadership

The AI era is moving too fast for any single leader to have all the answers. The executives who navigate it best are the ones who share their insights, build trust across networks, and compound their knowledge through genuine exchange. Forum Select is built for exactly those leaders.

Knowledge compounds

Shared insight returns multiplied

In a fast-moving field like AI, the leaders who share what they're learning receive better information back than those who hoard it. Open exchange accelerates every member's thinking.

Trust is the moat

The only currency that can't be bought

Every introduction Murray makes without being asked, every conversation held off the record, deposits trust into a network that no amount of money or status can purchase.

Rooms select themselves

Givers find each other

When you build a community around generous behaviour, it self-selects. Takers don't stay, there is nothing to extract from a room of givers. What remains is pure.

20 years as
the proof

Murray Newlands arrived in Silicon Valley without the traditional credentials, no Stanford MBA, no prior VC pedigree, no family money. What he had was an instinct to give generously: to write articles for the benefit of readers, to make introductions without a fee, to speak at conferences for the good of the audience, to spend time with founders who could offer him nothing in return.

Two decades later, he has 1.4 million followers on Twitter/X, bylines in Forbes, Inc, Time and The Guardian, a partnership at IASV Seed Ventures, and the trust of hundreds of senior executives across Silicon Valley.

None of it came from networking strategically. All of it came from giving without keeping score.

  • Started writing for major publications to share insight, not to build a brand
  • Made thousands of introductions with no expectation of reciprocity
  • Spoke at hundreds of events for the benefit of the audience
  • Helped founders who had nothing to offer in return
  • Built a following not by optimising for it, but by publishing genuine insight
  • Founded Open Future Forum to give the room he wished had existed
Read the full Murray story

Are you
a giver?

Forum Select is built for exactly one type of leader: the generous one. If that is how you operate, come and find your room.

The Give and Take Philosophy of Open Future Forum

Open Future Forum is explicitly built on the philosophy of Adam Grant's Give and Take. The community is designed to attract givers, leaders who contribute more than they receive, share knowledge freely, and make introductions without expectation. Murray Newlands founded the community after 20 years of proving the thesis himself: that givers consistently create more long-term value than takers or matchers. Forum Select is the private community for givers at the C-suite and board level. Forum Events are open gatherings where Murray scouts for the next generation of givers to invite into Forum Select.